Is Insecurity Ruling You?

Your insecurity is holding you back

And your false projection of security keeps attracting you to ‘the wrong things’.

Being comfortable in your skin is definitely a blessing, but it is also very much a skill - that can be sharpened and developed. The internal dialogue you keep repeating to yourself is a big part of why you stay stuck. The things you keep telling yourself you’re scared of - manifest as real but these fears are learned not inherent. The same way they’ve been learned they can be unlearned - but with intention. Seemingly would actually be most beneficial to simply forget that you have held onto these fears and walk forward like none of it ever happened, but most people are too mentally persistent to live so simply. So instead changes must be brought forward with intention. 

It may be comforting to realize that no two people have the same perception of you, after all, how could they? We all view life from different windows, at different heights, at different angles, different taste pallets, different everything; so how could you be received the same way by everyone that interacts with you? When you accept that you simply are, and you are just here to be… life gets much easier. There is no post-social event angst over what was said or not said or how these things were or weren’t conveyed because what happened happened. As you happen. as you are.

Insecurity is really a thief of the present moment, because it makes your life in the now somewhere else, somewhere slightly ego-centric. I promise you the world is significantly less involved in you than you feel they are; in fact: the judgement your feeling is coming from within yourself.

You are your biggest critic after all

….. but you don’t have to be!

So why not try:

Observe how often you make real eye contact with strangers; everything is transmitted through the eyes: weakness, strength, truth, deceit. When you are comfortable you don't have a problem looking at people straight on, because looking is equivalent to being seen, and neither bother you.

There is a difference in not feeling the security from another to make eye contact and the insecurity stemming from yourself; one is protection the other is fear of judgement. 

Work on this skill so you can truly differentiate, what is threatening and what is you simply feeling threatened. 

So take yourself on a confidence walk, head up, body firm, not fearing eye contact and move through space like you have no problem taking it up. Demonstrate your respect for your surroundings, but do not shrink yourself. 

You are here to be and you are here to take up space accordingly.